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“Inner Child” Imagery Rescripting (Extra content for chapters 18 & 28 of second edition of ACT Made Simple) Many models of therapy now include exercises using ‘inner child’ imagery for various purposes. ACT certainly has a long tradition of such exercises, primarily for developing selfi compassion. (But like any ACT exercise, it can serve multiple purposes, and readily be adapted for values work or selfi asi context work. Our focus here is going to be selfi compassion.) Typically, these exercises involve revisiting a painful childhood memory, and imagining yourself as an adult going back to comfort and soothe the child: to empathise with, validate, and support the child, to help her understand what was going on, and to be there in a compassionate way. Page 3 of this document has a script for one version of this type of exercise. This version is taken from my book, The Reality Slap – but there are many, many variations on inner child imagery floating around the ACT world. And as for every exercise in this course (and in any type of ACT training) feel free to modify and adapt it to suit your clients and your way of working. A few words of caution: 1. Make sure your clients have good grounding/centering/dropping anchor/expansive awareness skills before doing this type of imagery – so that if the exercise triggers some deep emotional pain, and that in turn triggers a dissociative state, you can help your client cope with it effectively. 2. Set up the exercise so that there is clearly an ‘adult you’ – the man/woman you are today – and a ‘younger you’ or ‘childhood you’ – the boy/girl you were back then. Always have your client look through the eyes of her adult self at the child; and talk to the adult, and ask the adult about how the child is responding. There’s a risk in trauma work that if you ask the client to actually imagine she IS the child again that she will plunge into a world of fusion; so it’s much safer to keep the client identifying with the adult all the way through, and seeing the child through the adult’s eyes.
Make It Interactive If you’re using the script that follows in one-‐on-‐one therapy with a client, the idea is that you do this as an interactive process: therapist and client talk to each other throughout the exercise. The therapist continually checks in and asks the client what the child is doing and saying, how the child looks, how the child is responding -‐ and coaches the adult in what to say and do to help the child. The things the adult says to the client should not slavishly follow the provided script (which is just a generic version of the exercise). Rather the therapist should help the client to come up with his own words, actions and gestures toward the child. Of course, some clients struggle to come up with supportive, caring, empathic words or actions – especially if they come from backgrounds where neglectful or abusive caregivers have failed to provide such experiences. In these cases, therapists can be as directive as necessary, and may very specifically coach the adult in what to say and do for the child.
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In trauma work, we’ll often encounter clients fused with “It’s my fault” or “I made it happen” or “I should have stopped it”, and this is of course very common with childhood sexual abuse. Now as therapy progresses in ACT, typically we will repeatedly facilitate defusion from “It’s my fault” or “I made it happen” or “I’m bad” or other unhelpful narratives. And as we do this, our clients will often spontaneously come up with a more self-‐compassionate, self-‐accepting narrative around those childhood events. But, if for whatever reason this doesn’t seem to be happening as therapy progresses, then it can be useful during inner child exercises, to have the adult tell the child, “It’s not your fault.” Our aim is to encourage the adult in these visualisations to tell the child whatever he or she needs to know to make sense of the situation, to understand herself or what was happening, and encourage a kind, compassionate, understanding response to the child. As we do this, often a more self-‐compassionate narrative spontaneously shows up, and the client usually comes up with “It wasn’t my fault” without prompting. However, if she doesn’t, I might ask, “Is she – the younger you – still holding on tightly to “It’s my fault”? What is it like for her to go through her life holding on to that? Is there something you might like to say to her or do for her to help her unhook from that?” If the client can’t do that, we may spend some time on developing self-‐compassion – which of course involves taking a kinder, more understanding perspective on the childhood events and looking at them in a new way that enables defusion from self-‐blame. A new more self-‐ compassionate cognition along the lines “It wasn’t my fault” would be a natural and expected outcome of this work – even though we never go in to directly challenge, dispute, correct or try to replace the original thought “It was all my fault”. Very, very importantly in these exercises, we want the adult to both recognise and meet the physical, emotional and psychological needs of the child. In the script, you’ll find these instructions: • Ask this child if there’s anything she needs or wants from you—and whatever she asks for, give it to her. • If this child asks you to take him somewhere special, go ahead and do it. Offer a hug, a kiss, words of kindness, or a gift of some sort. • This is an exercise in imagination, so you can give her anything she wants. If this younger you doesn’t know what he wants or doesn’t trust you, then let him know that’s fine, that you are here for support and will always be here to do whatever you can to help . Take your time with these parts of the exercise. It is amazing the number of creative ways clients come up with to identify and meet the needs of their childhood self in these visualisations. .
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Compassion For The Younger You Find a comfortable position and close your eyes or stare at a spot. Take a few slow, deep breaths and notice them with openness and curiosity. You are about to do an exercise in imagination. Some people imagine with vivid, colourful pictures, much like those on a TV screen; others imagine with vague, fuzzy, unclear pictures; while others imagine without using pictures at all, relying more on words and ideas. However you imagine is just fine. Now imagine yourself getting into a time machine. Once inside that machine, you travel back in time to visit yourself as a young child. Visit this child at some point in their life when they are in a lot of pain, immediately after some distressing childhood event. Now step out of the time machine and make contact with the younger you. Take a good look at this young child and get a sense of what he is going through. Is she crying? Is he angry or frightened? Does she feel guilty or ashamed? What does this child really need: love, kindness, understanding, forgiveness, nurturing or acceptance? In a kind, calm and gentle voice, tell this ‘younger you’ that you know what just happened, that you know what he’s been through; that you know how much she is hurting. Tell this child that he doesn’t need anyone else to validate that experience because YOU know. Tell this child that she survived the experience and it is now just a painful memory. Tell this child that you are here, that you know how much it hurts and you want to help in any way you can. Ask this child if there’s anything she needs or wants from you — and whatever she asks for, give it to her. If this child asks you to take him somewhere special, go ahead and do it. Offer a hug, a kiss, words of kindness, or a gift of some sort. This is an exercise in imagination, so you can give anything she wants. If this younger you doesn’t know what he wants, or doesn’t trust you, then let him know that’s fine; that you are here for support, and will always be there to do whatever you can to help. Tell this child that you are here, that you care, and that you are going to help her recover from this pain to go on to lead a full, rich and valued life. Continue to radiate caring and kindness towards this younger you, in any way you can think of through words, gestures or deeds. Once you have a sense that this younger you has accepted your caring and kindness, let her be and bring awareness to your breathing.
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